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PostPosted: Mon Jul 23, 2012 11:18 am    Post subject: So true! A MUST read! Reply with quote #1   
http://bjjcanvas.com/embrace-the-process/

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PostPosted: Mon Jul 23, 2012 6:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote #2   
Interesting read, although the I disagree with the interpretation of "The Art Of Learning", I was under the understanding that he didn't want' to play because it just wasn't fun competing at the level he was competing at, but I guess it can be seen either way.
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PostPosted: Tue Jul 24, 2012 9:28 am    Post subject: Reply with quote #3   
buhriyon wrote:
Interesting read, although the I disagree with the interpretation of "The Art Of Learning", I was under the understanding that he didn't want' to play because it just wasn't fun competing at the level he was competing at, but I guess it can be seen either way.


I think the story from AoL it's referring to isn't about Josh, but rather about a good local kid who could have played with Josh but refused. I think it comes up around the story of Josh walking around and playing multiple games at once.
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PostPosted: Tue Jul 24, 2012 10:55 am    Post subject: Reply with quote #4   
No offense to the author but I thought it was a boring post. Lots of trite, truistic blather.
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PostPosted: Tue Jul 31, 2012 9:14 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote #5   
Yeah, that comment wasn't offensive at all.
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PostPosted: Wed Aug 01, 2012 1:30 am    Post subject: Reply with quote #6   
[quote="Shinoken"]Yeah, that comment wasn't offensive at all.[/quote] Smile Smile
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PostPosted: Thu Aug 02, 2012 9:37 am    Post subject: Reply with quote #7   
Well-- I could have put that better. Smile What I should have said:

I don't mean this to be a personal attack against the author, but in the spirit of honest and hopefully constructive criticism, I will say the post itself was boring, trite, and full of truism.

The "blather" comment was not constructive and was almost certainly born out of a low-blood-sugar moment. I apologize!

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PostPosted: Thu Aug 02, 2012 9:51 am    Post subject: Reply with quote #8   
georgetteoden wrote:
Well-- I could have put that better. Smile What I should have said:

I don't mean this to be a personal attack against the author, but in the spirit of honest and hopefully constructive criticism, I will say the post itself was boring, trite, and full of truism.

The "blather" comment was not constructive and was almost certainly born out of a low-blood-sugar moment. I apologize!


I would have chosen slightly different adjectives, but I felt kinda the same.

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PostPosted: Fri Aug 03, 2012 2:39 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote #9   
I am the author, and it is my site. I wrote that post for a very specific audience. It was for those who aren't naturally wired to persist in the face of adversity. It's a learned behavior so to address it you have to reinforce the message that setbacks are only temporary unless you allow yourself to be deterred.

Right now, I have a teammate who won the Pan Ams and then lost in the first round at Worlds. He's been down and out every since. He went from being excited and motivated about training and competing to indifference because of a setback. It saddens me, and I don't like to see it, but I see such things too much.

Now on the other matter, to say that the post was boring, trite, or full of truisms is not helpful to me at all. So it cannot be considered constructive criticism in any way, shape, or form. There is no way for me to take that comment and make changes in order to better convey the message.

Also the idea that concepts aren't worth repeating is something I cannot agree with. Even if the concept of defeat being only a mindset was truly self-evident and everyone knew it, there would still be worth in reinforcing the message.

Just knowing something doesn't mean that you are able to apply that knowledge. It's only by consistently drilling the message in that you can reach the point where you just naturally keep moving forward even when you trip.


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PostPosted: Fri Aug 03, 2012 5:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote #10   
Shinoken wrote:
I am the author, and it is my site. I wrote that post for a very specific audience. It was for those who aren't naturally wired to persist in the face of adversity. It's a learned behavior so to address it you have to reinforce the message that setbacks only temporary unless you allow yourself to be deterred.

Right now, I have a teammate who won the Pan Ams and then lost in the first round at Worlds. He's been down and out every since. He went from being excited and motivated about training and competing to indifference because of a setback. It saddens me, and I don't like to see it, but I see such things too much.

Now on the other matter, to say that the post boring, trite, or full of truisms is not helpful to me at all. So it cannot be considered constructive criticism in any way, shape, or form. There is no way for me to take that comment and make changes in order to better convey the message.

Also the idea that concepts aren't worth repeating is something I cannot agree with. Even if the concept of defeat being only a mindset was truly self-evident and everyone knew it, there would still be worth in reinforcing the message.

Just knowing something doesn't mean that you are able to apply that knowledge. It's only by consistently drilling the message in that you can reach the point where you just naturally keep moving forward even when you trip.



s*** just got real, i think he deserves a response.

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PostPosted: Mon Aug 06, 2012 8:16 am    Post subject: Reply with quote #11   
I'm happy to explain what I meant. See below.

Shinoken wrote:
I am the author, and it is my site. I wrote that post for a very specific audience. It was for those who aren't naturally wired to persist in the face of adversity. It's a learned behavior so to address it you have to reinforce the message that setbacks are only temporary unless you allow yourself to be deterred.
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Now on the other matter, to say that the post was boring, trite, or full of truisms is not helpful to me at all. So it cannot be considered constructive criticism in any way, shape, or form. There is no way for me to take that comment and make changes in order to better convey the message.


1. I disagree with your initial premise-- "It was for those who aren't naturally wired to persist in the face of adversity." As you put it on the face of the blog, your site wants "[t]o share information and resources that might be helpful to the community" --- it is by definition aimed at the BJJ community--- an audience which is highly persistent in the face of adversity. Anyone who attends and participates in more than one BJJ class has already demonstrated significant willingness to endure and overcome fear, awkwardness, physical and ego-related discomfort. Whether the people in the community are "naturally wired" to persist or not, they empirically do persist. But fine, you're writing to new whitebelts. That doesn't mean your post was well-written, only that it was well-intended.

2. You feel my critique was not constructive. Perhaps you weren't sure what I meant by "trite," or you didn't understand what a truism is. (Google, a dictionary, and a thesaurus are your friends!) How could I have more clearly and constructively communicated that I felt your post was boring, repetitive, and trite, without rewriting your post for you? Perhaps I could have followed up with something like this,

"Maybe next time, try writing about it more interestingly. Add more personal reflections. Repeat yourself less. Don't take up a straw man argument (no one is going to argue with you on "it's a process" or "just keep trying.") Don't approach your subject using such a common angle, which has been written about so many times in books, literature, the internet etc. Add something of value for your audience so that you're not just covering old ground that's well-trodden."

In other words, you wanted me to repeat myself using different words, making me repetitive too. Notice how many more words that took, and how much time? Gah! Inefficient!

If you want a line-by-line critique of your post, sorry, I write for a living and occasionally have a few moments to read for fun on the internet. I don't have time to rewrite peoples' posts for them. The best I can do (when someone puts their work out there AND ASKS FOR FEEDBACK) is share my opinion. I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt. That's why I said "no offense"-- my critique was not of YOU but of your WRITING.

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PostPosted: Mon Aug 06, 2012 8:32 am    Post subject: Reply with quote #12   
I believe that books such as the Art of Learning and The Talent Code are great reads and offer at least a perceptive into the mental aspects of becoming good at something. Both books present debatable concepts, but isnt that what its all about anyway? I am a firm believer in needing to fail or at least be challenged to the brink of failure, in order to experience sustained growth in whatever you do in life. If you dont use it, you lose it, whether its your muscles, cardio vascular system, or your brain. You either agree or disagree with the concepts, but at least you have an opinion.

I am in the process of reading AoL and just completed The Talent Code and posted a review of it on my blog (http://southernjiujitsu.com/?p=254).

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PostPosted: Mon Aug 06, 2012 11:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote #13   
georgetteoden wrote:
1. I disagree with your initial premise-- "It was for those who aren't naturally wired to persist in the face of adversity." As you put it on the face of the blog, your site wants "[t]o share information and resources that might be helpful to the community" --- it is by definition aimed at the BJJ community--- an audience which is highly persistent in the face of adversity. Anyone who attends and participates in more than one BJJ class has already demonstrated significant willingness to endure and overcome fear, awkwardness, physical and ego-related discomfort. Whether the people in the community are "naturally wired" to persist or not, they empirically do persist. But fine, you're writing to new whitebelts. That doesn't mean your post was well-written, only that it was well-intended.

2. You feel my critique was not constructive. Perhaps you weren't sure what I meant by "trite," or you didn't understand what a truism is. (Google, a dictionary, and a thesaurus are your friends!) How could I have more clearly and constructively communicated that I felt your post was boring, repetitive, and trite, without rewriting your post for you? Perhaps I could have followed up with something like this,

"Maybe next time, try writing about it more interestingly. Add more personal reflections. Repeat yourself less. Don't take up a straw man argument (no one is going to argue with you on "it's a process" or "just keep trying.") Don't approach your subject using such a common angle, which has been written about so many times in books, literature, the internet etc. Add something of value for your audience so that you're not just covering old ground that's well-trodden."

In other words, you wanted me to repeat myself using different words, making me repetitive too. Notice how many more words that took, and how much time? Gah! Inefficient!

If you want a line-by-line critique of your post, sorry, I write for a living and occasionally have a few moments to read for fun on the internet. I don't have time to rewrite peoples' posts for them. The best I can do (when someone puts their work out there AND ASKS FOR FEEDBACK) is share my opinion. I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt. That's why I said "no offense"-- my critique was not of YOU but of your WRITING.

Wow, you're taking this far more personally than I am. I find that fascinating.

1. I love the world you live in. I really wish everyone who attends and participates in more than one BJJ class was in for the long haul. There would be far more black belts and high level competitors around.Yes, it would be such great world indeed if so many individuals had the willingness and desire to persevere through all the highs and lows. I want to see that world become a reality.

2. This situation calls for a little visualization. You should take a moment and imagine what your response would be if someone gave you that kind of "constructive" criticism about your writing. If you're honest, I doubt that you would be able to say that you would have actually taken it as constructive.

Oh yeah, I feel sorry for anyone who has actually asked you for feedback if this is how you operate.
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I believe that books such as the Art of Learning and The Talent Code are great reads and offer at least a perceptive into the mental aspects of becoming good at something. Both books present debatable concepts, but isnt that what its all about anyway? I am a firm believer in needing to fail or at least be challenged to the brink of failure, in order to experience sustained growth in whatever you do in life. If you dont use it, you lose it, whether its your muscles, cardio vascular system, or your brain. You either agree or disagree with the concepts, but at least you have an opinion.

I am in the process of reading AoL and just completed The Talent Code and posted a review of it on my blog.

This is the second time that I’ve heard about the Talent Code. I’m definitely going to add it to my list, and I’ll check out your review of it as well.
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PostPosted: Mon Aug 06, 2012 12:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote #14   
Sadly, I get short, critical, to-the-point critique of my writing on a regular basis from my boss and colleagues, right before I file in the the USSCt. And I don't take it personally. The goal is to produce the best possible product.

I recognize that my initial post was overly harsh-- I tried to soften it a little bit although my self-deprecation was obviously not significant enough to make you feel better. I apologize again. My intent was not to cause hurt feelings. It was my honest, knee-jerk reaction. Clearly, your blog post was written from the heart and not intended to be a magnum opus on the subject of motivation and success in sport. I hope you keep writing about what's important to you. If you think my critique was way off in left field, then ignore it Smile If I might have been a little bit right, tuck it away in the corner of your mind and the next time you post, perhaps it will help.

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PostPosted: Mon Aug 06, 2012 6:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote #15   
When I read it, I had a negative reaction to the opening line - to be very honest, it read like a white belt or new blue. It didn't sound humble at all and I couldn't connect with it.

I also agree - there was a lack of personality in it. It read like a "truth" but the problem is that it seems to lack perspective - what I mean is that - I'm a blue belt, and my jiu jitsu journey is just beginning - less than 3 years old. For me to be talking about jiu jitsu truths it doesn't ring true. For a black belt to speak about BJJ truths - rings more true, but I still don't know that I've read articles where black belts were talking about their quest for greatness or that they are on a path to being great.

I think what Georgette is saying, (and please correct me if I'm wrong, G), is that the way you wrote sounds too lofty to connect with.

I know that one thing I appreciate about blog posts, books, and perspectives, is having a personal connection. Someone talking about their teammate, a challenge they went through, or even a lot of nitty gritty personal realization about themselves, their attitudes, or their lives. It felt like it lacked perspective - like it was too sanitary, too much of a truism.

What I appreciate is when people take truisms and they add their own insight or some personal perspective. It felt like it lacked that - like you were only speaking in "truths" and about other people's stories.

I sincerely hope this was viewed as constructive - it was intended to be. It was my personal opinion, and if most or all of your blog posts are written from that perspective, I would not likely read again - there's no personal voice in there, and if it's all "truths" I'd like to hear them from a black belt.

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PostPosted: Mon Aug 06, 2012 7:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote #16   

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PostPosted: Tue Aug 07, 2012 8:27 am    Post subject: Reply with quote #17   
Shinoken:

If you had responded to Georgette with "Damn, I'm sorry this article missed the mark for you. Your critique was harsh, but I appreciate all honest feedback, hopefully my next article will have more insight that you can appreciate"...(or something to that affect), at least you would have put your money where your mouth is in terms of actually living the stuff that you talk about in the article.

If you can't handle criticism, I highly suggest you stop writing, especially in such a public forum as a blog on the internet.

I write. I have had people tell me my writing flat out sucks. I think one person in a writing workshop said my writing was "the worst kind of adolescent hubris" they had ever read. Did I shoot right back with "Oh well that reflects more on you than me"...of course not. I shook their hand like a man and thanked them for being so honest with me, then I thought about it and realized that they were actually right in some ways. The piece I read for that class WAS hubristic and it did revolve around themes that played out for me in my mid to late teens. That doesn't mean I dislike that piece, but it does mean that in the future, his words echoed in my head and reminded me to more thoroughly consider if my narrative was truly useful for the AUDIENCE or if it was just something I wanted to write for myself.

Your response to our critique here is something I would not expect from someone who just wrote an article on the mertis of not crumbling in the face of adversity:

"Thus, his potential was limited because he thought of himself in static terms. I could easily see him crumbling if there ever came a day when he lost."

Doesn't that statement, in this context, strike you as ironic?

On a personal note: You can't take this kind of critique too seriously either. All of us who write, have to learn how to say "Ok, thanks for the feedback" when someone destroys a piece we just poured our heart into. If you can't learn how to do that (even if the critique is a hit piece that isn't constructive at all), you aren't going to last as a writer. Removal of ego is just as important to the aspiring writer as it is to the Jiu-Jitiero.

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PostPosted: Tue Aug 07, 2012 12:38 pm    Post subject: Blog Reply with quote #18   
I liked it. When you write you can tell it's from the heart and is meant to be a learning tool for others. I don't offer constructive criticism because my grammer/spelling/penmanship is atrocious. And yes I had to use spell check. A Blog from me would be more painful to read then to write, but in life I've learned to take the criticisms with the praise. As your blog implies everything is a learning experience. Again, I thought it was a good article and the video tie-in was a bonus. But coming from me that doesn't mean much due to my lack of knowledge of the blogosphere and the proper use of the english language.

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PostPosted: Tue Aug 07, 2012 1:01 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote #19   
scifigal wrote:


I think what Georgette is saying, (and please correct me if I'm wrong, G), is that the way you wrote sounds too lofty to connect with.



You said it better than I did! and with much more warmth Smile Smile

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PostPosted: Tue Aug 07, 2012 10:18 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote #20   
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Shinoken:

If you had responded to Georgette with "Damn, I'm sorry this article missed the mark for you. Your critique was harsh, but I appreciate all honest feedback, hopefully my next article will have more insight that you can appreciate"...(or something to that affect), at least you would have put your money where your mouth is in terms of actually living the stuff that you talk about in the article.

If you can't handle criticism, I highly suggest you stop writing, especially in such a public forum as a blog on the internet.

I write. I have had people tell me my writing flat out sucks. I think one person in a writing workshop said my writing was "the worst kind of adolescent hubris" they had ever read. Did I shoot right back with "Oh well that reflects more on you than me"...of course not. I shook their hand like a man and thanked them for being so honest with me, then I thought about it and realized that they were actually right in some ways. The piece I read for that class WAS hubristic and it did revolve around themes that played out for me in my mid to late teens. That doesn't mean I dislike that piece, but it does mean that in the future, his words echoed in my head and reminded me to more thoroughly consider if my narrative was truly useful for the AUDIENCE or if it was just something I wanted to write for myself.

Your response to our critique here is something I would not expect from someone who just wrote an article on the mertis of not crumbling in the face of adversity:

"Thus, his potential was limited because he thought of himself in static terms. I could easily see him crumbling if there ever came a day when he lost."

Doesn't that statement, in this context, strike you as ironic?

On a personal note: You can't take this kind of critique too seriously either. All of us who write, have to learn how to say "Ok, thanks for the feedback" when someone destroys a piece we just poured our heart into. If you can't learn how to do that (even if the critique is a hit piece that isn't constructive at all), you aren't going to last as a writer. Removal of ego is just as important to the aspiring writer as it is to the Jiu-Jitiero.

Whoa! What's this? It's like you created someone out of whole cloth to argue against because it's clearly not me.
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