Forum




Child doesn't understand BJJ is fighting...  

Page 1 / 2 Next
Nietzsche_Keen
New Member

Has anyone else had this experience? I'm seeking advice. My son just turned four in December '16. I only recently got parental rights and the right to see him. His mother's family raise him to never be rough or do anything even remotely violent, like football, tee ball or especially dodge ball or martial arts.

As a result, he doesn't understand that he's supposed to do take downs or mount etc. and ends up getting taken down or, as he did once, just immediately lie on his back when the other kid comes towards him. I've been trying to get rougher with him and work with him at home, but it's like he cant grasp the concept of fighting. Unfortunately, he is only able to go to BJJ once a week when I have him.

Do you think he will eventually catch on? Any advice. I took martial arts for many years when I was young and enjoyed it and I want him to enjoy it also. But more importantly I want him to learn to fight back and not be a complete push over. Thanks!

ReplyQuote
Posted : 05/02/2017 4:59 pm
bma_mat
Illustrious Member

He's young enough to teach of course. Look up Gracie bully proof. Teaches tons of fun games to play with him that will teach him in the same time

ReplyQuote
Posted : 05/02/2017 5:18 pm
Nietzsche_Keen
New Member

Thanks. He's enrolled at Gracie Barra and they incorporate a little of that in the classes. If they have another Bully Proof type situation again soon, I plan to get him involved. In the meantime, I'm just trying to get him to fight back in class instead of just letting his partner knock him down every time.

ReplyQuote
Posted : 05/02/2017 6:07 pm
Girafa
Noble Member

Moat important thing is he enjoys what he's doing otherwise he will want to quit. Maybe jiu jitsu is not for him.

ReplyQuote
Posted : 05/02/2017 6:20 pm




bma_mat
Illustrious Member

I meant that you should look into the bullyproof games, and play them with him when you two are at home or whatever.  

As to class, at his age it just matters that he's having fun.  If he wants to flop on his back, let him.  
If you want him to go towards a certain path, the best surefire way to fuck it up is to put pressure on him.  Pressure on an activity at that age kills the enjoyment, and turns it into a task, or worse, into something he does just to impress you.
Find creative ways to make him choose to be aggressive and reward him for when he does it.  The bullyproof games are great just for this. 


Something like this will do a lot more for him that you may think.  It teaches him to hold and control the position, without telling him that he needs to learn it, because he just thinks he's having fun.
ReplyQuote
Posted : 05/02/2017 7:33 pm
Nietzsche_Keen
New Member

Cool. I didn't know about the games. I'll check them out.

ReplyQuote
Posted : 05/02/2017 7:48 pm
Illustrious Member Admin

What mat said.  I used bully proof game with some young kids. Worked great.

Also, the kid is 4. Dont sweat it. Make sure they are having fun, and it will come.
ReplyQuote
Posted : 05/02/2017 9:46 pm
GABJJgirl
Trusted Member

I teach kids ages 4-13 and at that age it's very common for kids to not understand that it's about fighting, even older kids. It's totally age appropriate and healthy for him to think its about playing.

ReplyQuote
Posted : 05/02/2017 10:46 pm




regaldeagle
Reputable Member

I think I pressured my kids too much when they were training because as they've gotten older their interest has dropped to zero.

ReplyQuote
Posted : 06/02/2017 12:23 am
JitsTat
Eminent Member

Bma_mat said it perfectly

ReplyQuote
Posted : 06/02/2017 5:38 am
bma_mat
Illustrious Member

Try not to get too frustrated, but stick with it. A father is extremely important in a boy's life, and I'm sure you know that. He'll pick up stuff on his own pace, you can't really control what he ends up loving to do, but you sure as hell can control what he's exposed to.

ReplyQuote
Posted : 06/02/2017 6:34 am
halfguardian
Prominent Member

Maybe just play a game like tip. Maybe americans call it catch? You have to chase him and grab him and hold onto him. And then he has to chase you and hold onto you. Maybe it will teach him to be physically forceful by not letting go?

ReplyQuote
Posted : 06/02/2017 12:26 pm




rediska
Prominent Member

There is more to fighting than jiujitsu. Teach the boy how to plaly chess and explain that a submission is like checkmate. I can't believe no one has suggested it yet.

ReplyQuote
Posted : 06/02/2017 5:36 pm
bma_mat
Illustrious Member

There is more to fighting than jiujitsu. Teach the boy how to plaly chess and explain that a submission is like checkmate. I can't believe no one has suggested it yet.

... Jack, can't add some tag to his name? Forum troll maybe?. This shit is hilarious.

Next he'll offer to teach the kids chess in his local park, under light rain and slightly wet grass

ReplyQuote
Posted : 06/02/2017 5:37 pm
rediska
Prominent Member

There is more to fighting than jiujitsu. Teach the boy how to plaly chess and explain that a submission is like checkmate. I can't believe no one has suggested it yet.

... Jack, can't add some tag to his name? Forum troll maybe?. This shit is hilarious.

Next he'll offer to teach the kids chess in his local park, under light rain and slightly wet grass

Mat, your insults are annoying, but all you really do is embarass yourself. IF YOUR COACHES MISTREAT YOU, IT'S NOT MY FAULT, NOT BY ANY STRETCH OF IMAGINATION, SO STOP VENTING AT ME. 

IT IS NOT MY FAULT YOU ARE STUCK ON BROWN WHEN YOU SHOULD BE AT BLACK
 Jack, can you explain to this guy that personal attacks are not okay?

Meanwhile I'll stick to learning chess lore to improve myself.
ReplyQuote
Posted : 06/02/2017 5:49 pm
Page 1 / 2 Next




  
Working

Please Login or Register